Sometimes we forget who we are, or where we’re going, or who we are trying to become. Sometimes a day turns into a week, then a month and soon, we’re just coasting. Living life by default instead of creating it how we want.

That was the core reason for writing “Staging Your Comeback.” The belief was that if I have to look at a sheet of paper every day just to keep myself in check then others must need it to. That’s how the beauty revival guide that accompanies the book was created.

Understandably, for several reasons, my publisher didn’t want to produce a beauty revival guide to accompany the book. So I created the system for people to do it themselves. Using downloads from my site and the tenets of the book, it is fairly easy.

Now I want to create a beauty revival guide already assembled, so the process is that much easier. And visually, I believe if I provide an actual guidebook with all the pages to fill out and check off in it, I’m more likely to follow through with my plan. I’m that way. I like a kit.

So I need your help. I’ve gotten so many emails from people who’ve gone through the system and are seeing remarkable results. Great stories. But I know I’ve missed something. So I need your ideas. How can I make the beauty revival guide stronger and more helpful? How can I arrange it so it’s simplified, yet more effective at getting you off your butt and out of the rut?

I’d love to include stories. I’d like to include motivational quotes (got any that move you? Send them along!) I’d like it to become a piece you look at every day that is your motivation to become your best yet.

So I’m just asking for your ideas. What would you like to see in this guide that could help it help you look forward to cracking it open and getting on task? Throw them at me. Especially those of you have created your own revival guide and tailored it to your needs. You must have some great ideas I can use.

That’s it. A long way of saying…I need you to help me help you look, and be, your best.

Just email me back with any ideas. All are welcome.

Thank you,

Chrisotpher

I received an email from a man at growingbolder.com who asked me what I was most grateful for. I replied, “Hair.”

I sifted through my cornucopia of gratitude and thought…corny. I don’t want to sound corny. I am grateful for so many things, but for some reason its personal. I’m grateful, but its rather vulnerable for me to express gratitude, so I said "hair."

However, it IS Thanksgiving Day.

Our morning haze was interrupted by a heavy thunk on the window.

“Was it a bird?” I asked Robert, knowing of course it was, but what else do you say…

“Yeah, it’s struggling,” he said. I looked out.

“It’s a Robin.”

“No, they’ve all gone south,” he replied, as he always does. Like he knows a fact and it’s an absolute truth.

“It’s a Robin, Robert, there are bunch of them.”

As our eyes panned our yard into the neighbors’ we saw what seemed like hundreds of Robins.

“It’s Lois,” I decided. “She says ‘Happy Thanksgiving.’” .

Lois is my Grandmother whose body gave up 6 years ago. Her spirit touches me frequently. Last night it was a color – a rose-beige fabric in “White Christmas,” the sappy-but-I-love-it holiday movie we watch at least twice a year. The carpeting at "the farm" was rose beige, but by the time I could remember it, it was more …“greige.”

Thoughts come pouring when Lois touches me. She touches me when I smell lilacs. She touches me when I taste a root beer float. She touches me every Halloween and I think “popcorn balls.” She touches me when I bend over to pick up a crumb off the carpet. She touches me when I see a robin.

Spirits are stronger in the holiday season. So too is sentiment, I suppose. On Thanksgiving it is gratitude that strikes me -- hard enough too forget about being corny, and to just be grateful. Grateful for memories. Grateful for this lifetime.

I am so grateful. I’m grateful that I can live with the person with whom eternity isn’t long enough to fully appreciate. I’m grateful that my Mother has found true love, twice in one lifetime. I’m grateful that I was published, and people are touched. I’m grateful to have employees who are devoted. I’m grateful for two of the most beautiful babies in the world that press up against us hard and growl in soft happiness. I’m grateful for this…being able to express myself, at a computer, in front of a fire as flocks of birds dance through the trees. I’m grateful for so much.

And I’m grateful for hair.